I once read a quote that said something to the fact that ” life should imitate TV”. It sunk in almost immediately. With movies such as Fifty shades of Grey, TV shows like Being Mary Jane and Scandal, we as a society crave the “want”. We want to be wanted by someone.
Dating sites are popping up faster than ever. Lifestyles that used to be taboo, are now glamorized. Scandal, messing around with the President, Monica Lewinsky should be vindicated, but not so.
I have watched the show, only once or twice, but I get the gist. We now have sensationalized almost everything that was a huge no-no back in the day.
So what’s going on? Why is there such a huge need for the “want”? Have we lost the romance? How do we get it back? This can be tough one to answer because we don’t live in our parents time anymore. My parents got married when they were 18. Almost and extinct age to get married nowadays. My dad was in the Air Force. Not for long though. However, they moved, traveled, raised 3 pretty good kids 🙂 and stay married until death did them part. My dad passed away in 2007. Married almost 50 years. FIFTY YEARS, not fifty shades of tying someone up, but fifty quality years of love, fighting, making up, struggle, bills, mortgages, moving, kids, dogs, parties, friends, foes, anger, sadness, teenagers, college, college bills x’s 3, retirement, loss, and so much more in between.
TV does not show you the real, it shows you the want. Producers know that women love the sexiness of the men on these shows. Women want to be pulled in by their man, taken to a place of nirvana. Does this happen in real life? Stop laughing!
Men know what women want they just are put up against an unexpected wall of trying to compete with these written scripts. Do you really want your man to come home with flowers every night? Give you a back message without being prodded? Do you really think they only think of you all day? Nope. So give him a break!
Life should imitate TV to a certain extent, however it should not be expected. We are humans not scripted humans. We don’t have a manual to tell us how to behave or act with one another . We learn as we go and hope for the best. Now I know this post seems geared toward the women, but the men have expectations of their partners as well. Do you greet your man when he comes in the door? Do you give him unexpected gifts throughout the year. Regardless if you are single or in a relationship, do not carry the TV show of the moment in your back pocket and expect any of that from your mate.
However, you, yourself can take note of what it is you do like about these shows, what draws you in and try to implement some ideas in your life. Take note of the surroundings. You can redecorate your bedroom to look more romantic. Dress a little more sexy Sexy does not translate into trashy. Maybe just a new top. How can you change it up a bit. One thing at a time. Take it slow and easy. Life imitating TV can be an asset, use it to your advantage. Just don’t expect your man to be the next Mr. Grey;)
Make it a great one!